HOW you and your partner communicate is usually crucial to the outcomes of your conversations. Having a baseline set of shared communication skills makes it a lot easier to focus on the actual content of discussions, rather than getting sidetracked by what seems to be going on underneath. “Posture” Awareness Tools. What kinds of “roles” are your verbal favorites? Do you like to advise? Criticize? Defend? Resist? Comply? Often, outside of conscious awareness, you and your partner may be ...read more
5 Assumptions About Love That Can Get You In Trouble
Are your beliefs about love setting you up for fantasy or fulfillment? Here are some common misconceptions about love and how to steer clear: 1. “Love at First Sight” means it’s right. Not necessarily. Sometimes, indeed it IS just great chemistry. Often, however, that flash of heart-stopping attraction can mean that your unconscious mind has zeroed in on someone capable of, over time, inviting you to re-experience some of your worst childhood emotions or longing. Instead: Give it time. ...read more
Rev Up Your Romance for Valentine’s Day
Not feeling particularly excited about this Valentine’s Day with your partner? You are not alone! It is easy to lose enthusiasm over time. Here are some suggestions to put some CPR into your romance! Remind yourself that Valentine’s Day is a great time to CONNECT with each other. Healthy love does not just happen—there is some conscious effort involved. Think about what you can do more (or less) of to strengthen your sense of coupleship. Do you listen? Make eye contact? Make at least a ...read more